Reality Check

When you enter a relationship its really nice to get completely involved with the person you are seeing. Especially if the involvment is mutual, I think the best types of relationships are the kind that you get so involved with the person you are with that you kinda forget about everyone else and that special person becomes one of your main priorities in life and all of the choices and decisions you make for your life includes them and you always keep in consideration how it effects them.. REALITY CHECK most people are not like that! relationships like that are rare if not extinct! so we the rare breed of us that are like that Wake up we shouldn't be like that either... when going into a realtionship you should always be yourself and stay yourself don't change unless its what you want! and Don't make everything revolve around your partner because they are not doing that for you and when you wake up to realize that, you are only going to get hurt. When they think about their life you'll be lucky if they even consider you in it. In some cases when they talk about their life and future its like you aren't even included in their future. So keep your choices and your own decisions about your life separate from your relationship and think of yourself before you think of the other person, because thats what they are doing... That is one of my weaknesses that I have which I'm trying to work on. Unfortunetly when I'm in a relationship I drown myself in it and I want that person to be involved in everything and I want to be involved in everything about them..but I have experienced that its not such a good idea to do that and you should surround yourself with many different people and not only that one person, It's good to think of them as more special than the rest but don't isolate yourself only to them because if you are more involved in the relationship and its not mutual then you are going to get hurt in the long run... You don't always know that you are isolating yourself only to them untill the person you are seeing makes a small comment which is not intended to hurt you but hurts beyond words and makes you step back and have a reality check.. sometimes its something really small and maybe something simple which seems unimportant to them but makes u just feel really hurt. Then you look at yourself and you're like dude! what are you doing? back off obviously they are not as engaged to this relationship as you are! ...its heartbreaking but true. Its not their fault everyone is different. You shouldn't do anything irrational like ruin the relationship or end it but every once in a while a REALITY CHECK is much needed, but I sorta wish I could have one without getting hurt. So when things don't feel right or when they feel TOO RIGHT just step back and give yourself a REALITY CHECK!