You just don't understand me! Well guess what you don't either!

Why is it that when a guy tries really hard and chases you for a long time like 7 years and then they finally get you to a point where u are like u know what maybe this could work maybe I do like you maybe we should try this out and you give them a chance and decide you like them then u decide you love them. All of a sudden you aren't worth the chase anymore it feels like they only want you when they can't have you or they only want you when u don't want them and when you want them they kinda get over trying to make you happy or impressing you or trying to get you. That is so annoying! Also why is it that when you say something to a guy (this is mostly for 30 year old guys and older) and you get upset at something they say or something they are or are not doing for you they always play the "you don't understand me" card which is the whole spill about you need to understand me u need to understand my situation my life is different...bla bla bla SORRY BUT ALL that is BULL. When is it your damn turn to understand me??? When will u understand me? thats what I want to know! Why is it that everytime I'm upset its me not understanding you there is no possibility that you are not understanding me? Or better yet can't it just be that YOU ARE WRONG! hmm there is something to think about... maybe its because u could be wrong! and YOU ARE! ... UNDERSTAND THAT WHY DON'T YOU!????????!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why can't we just be content with where we're at?

Why can't we just be content in our relationships?

Why do women have to put a title on everything? Why do I need to know so bad what my title is am I his girlfriend? or his friend? Maybe we are somewhere in between? why am I not OK with just being in between? I want to either be the girlfriend or just a friend! You know I wish I was ok with just not having a title! Like guys are! Why do we women always have to screw up something good just because we want to be on one side or the other?... We all know guys are generally uncomfortable and afraid of the word commitment yet we tend to do it every time! Even when things are going great we still want to know how serious it is or what he considers us as... where do I stand with you? I asked ... One of the dumbest questions ever! yet so important for me to know..though I regret asking every time! because if we're friends then he'll think you're into him and want more and back off the friendship... and if he's not ready for the title of something more serious than a friend then he'll choose the friend category which always ruins any potential for anything more because you have already chosen "the friend" side... and if he did want something more asking that question makes you look insecure and unsure of yourself and thats never attractive... so then at that point he doesn't want anything... so you loose every time when u ask that yet we can never resist asking that stupid question which ruins the good thing we've got going which has no name or title EVERY TIME! Gosh I need to stop! and so do all you women out there!

Do People At Your Job Act Professionaly??

I hate it working at a professional place and people around you who claim to be educated and in my case educators... are the ones who need to be educated themselves about acting professional I work at a school and I'm a Speech Therapist unfortunetly I share my office with a bunch of immature people who have a problem with me bringing children and therapy sessions to my room. They are making me feel unwelcome in my own office...HELLO!!! people its my office too. Do I need to teach YOU about sharing TOO? If you don't want to be around kids get a new job you work at a damn elementary school you loosers!!!!!! What bothers me the most is that they do not really do any work they just socialize and my therapy sessions are aparently bothering their social and unwork related loud obnoxious chatting sessions!!! GOSH!! talk about inconvenient... they are totally not thinkin about the kids... why the hell are u a damn teacher you morans!!! GROW UP!

It sucks when you are not the favorite child!

Are you the favorite child? If you are STOP READING NOW! If not then you could probably totally relate. You know what I hate? I hate that I can feel the difference of love distribution amongst the children in my family. It's so funny because my mom thinks that she doesn't treat us differently but she totally does my dad doesn't but my mom does and I find it hilarious that she can't tell she totally treats my sister more special. My sister always gets the jewelry she wants no matter how much it costs, she always gets the best family heirlooms and always gets first dibs on anything we get a choice on. When it comes to me and my brother we just get whats left or whatever the budget allows or whatever my sister does not want. The funny thing is even when something has been given to me its still offered to her as if its not mine already! yeah funny hu? kinda sad actually...It just amazes me that my mom can't tell she enables this. In my house the whole world revolves around my sister. But if we even barely mention it my mom denies it completely and is not even willing to step back and see what she is doing. She always says its because she's the older daughter so she gets to choose first and always choses the best and most valuable thing in the bunch I personally do not think that has anything to do with age she is just my mom's favorite. You know I'm not saying she doesn't deserve the treatment she totally does because she's great and I do love her because she is my sister but I would definitely be lying if I said it didn't bother me, it does bother me infact sometimes it bothers me more than it should. I'm not generally a jealous person and I'm not really jealous of the stuff she gets I think its deeper than that I think I'm jealous of her relationship with my mom and the treatment or attention she gets from her. My mom always asks her opinion and never cares about mine (even though a lot of the time mine is the same or better) and they talk for hours and when I ask whats up or when I come in I'm rarely included if ever! When I ask my mom whats up she always says nothing but when my sister asks she gets all the gossip and bonding and info that is never shared with me first or sometimes at all! and I'm always the last to know anything at my house. I just feel like my mom totally favors her I'm sure my brother feels the same way sometimes. I hate jealousy and I try so hard not to be jelous but like I said its not the materials its deeper its the treatment. I always try to repress my envious feelings of my sister and I just keep these feelings in or cry when I'm alone, it wouldn't be valued or paid attention to if I brought it up they would say I'm being a baby or I'm acting stupid they wouldn't understand anyway. When or if I become a parent some day I'm totally going to be completely aware of the relationship I have with my kids and I'm going to try a lot harder than my mom does to bond with them evenly and fairly.

Confidence Maker? or Confidence Breaker? Which One Are You?

Breaking someone's character and confidence is one of the worst things someone can do to another person. Insulting their Positive and strong character traits is such a horrible thing to do to someone and very uncalled for. What the hell are people thinking? don't you know when you insult someone's strong and what they think are positive character traits what happens? its not going to make them change it its just going to aggrivate them and or make them hate you! Why? Why be a confidence breaker? I actually had someone tell me today that I'm too passionate when I talk about stuff? what the hell is that? UH! HELLO! Last time I checked it was a good thing to be passionate about what you're talking about..because if you're not passionate about something then why the hell talk about it? besides people who speak passionatly about something make it interesting? rather than pe

Television!! Entertainment or way of life?

Television is not only today's entertainment but in lots of lives it has replaced many relationships, friends, and hobbies. It kinda qualifies for spending quality time with people now too we just invite them over to watch tv with us. I have been invited to watch tv with friends who miss spending time with me many times. We hang out and just watch some good ol' tv together. Ofcourse television like everything in the world has its advantages and disadvantages. For people who are introverted and loners its good because they don't have to socialize with anyone while watching. Television is something most people who don't like being alone can even do alone without being bothered. For people who have a hard time making friends or getting along with people its great too because the tv doesn't ever insult you or hurt your feelings and or if it does you just change the channel which is totally something you can't do to a friend which all of us at some point wished we could. Television has something for everyone for the "social people" it has many sitcoms and different shows and movies, for the "nerds and geeks" that want to watch something they can learn from there are a lot of educational channels both historical and modern and for the "hands on" type of people there are tons of things they can learn to do such as new recipies or home improvement shows and learn how to build things. And for the fashion lovers ofcourse television is the most fabulous place to learn the latest fashion. We can eat while watching tv we can relax while watching tv and we can entertain others while watching tv. Television can give us many different emotions we can watch things that make us happy , sad, excited, scared or whatever emotion we feel like having..thats the type of program we can watch. Lots of times we take the advice and information we learn from the television programs and use it in our everyday lives so who says television can't be educational?! It sure can!! There is something for everyone! Here is something to think about Is television our new best friend? Sometimes I think its mine ;) LOL!

Reality Check

When you enter a relationship its really nice to get completely involved with the person you are seeing. Especially if the involvment is mutual, I think the best types of relationships are the kind that you get so involved with the person you are with that you kinda forget about everyone else and that special person becomes one of your main priorities in life and all of the choices and decisions you make for your life includes them and you always keep in consideration how it effects them.. REALITY CHECK most people are not like that! relationships like that are rare if not extinct! so we the rare breed of us that are like that Wake up we shouldn't be like that either... when going into a realtionship you should always be yourself and stay yourself don't change unless its what you want! and Don't make everything revolve around your partner because they are not doing that for you and when you wake up to realize that, you are only going to get hurt. When they think about their life you'll be lucky if they even consider you in it. In some cases when they talk about their life and future its like you aren't even included in their future. So keep your choices and your own decisions about your life separate from your relationship and think of yourself before you think of the other person, because thats what they are doing... That is one of my weaknesses that I have which I'm trying to work on. Unfortunetly when I'm in a relationship I drown myself in it and I want that person to be involved in everything and I want to be involved in everything about them..but I have experienced that its not such a good idea to do that and you should surround yourself with many different people and not only that one person, It's good to think of them as more special than the rest but don't isolate yourself only to them because if you are more involved in the relationship and its not mutual then you are going to get hurt in the long run... You don't always know that you are isolating yourself only to them untill the person you are seeing makes a small comment which is not intended to hurt you but hurts beyond words and makes you step back and have a reality check.. sometimes its something really small and maybe something simple which seems unimportant to them but makes u just feel really hurt. Then you look at yourself and you're like dude! what are you doing? back off obviously they are not as engaged to this relationship as you are! ...its heartbreaking but true. Its not their fault everyone is different. You shouldn't do anything irrational like ruin the relationship or end it but every once in a while a REALITY CHECK is much needed, but I sorta wish I could have one without getting hurt. So when things don't feel right or when they feel TOO RIGHT just step back and give yourself a REALITY CHECK!